GAMES TO RESTORE TENDERNESS – GAME 1: EXPRESSING NEED (PART 1)
The husband and wife are lying in a semidark room. They look into each other’s eyes (no matter how difficult it is to see or how uncomfortable it makes them) and take turns saying the following sentences:
“I don’t want to need you.”
“And I don’t want to need you.”
“If I need you, I’ll …” (Say whatever comes to mind next.)
“And if I need you, I’ll . . .” (Say whatever comes to mind next.)
“My father was so needy. I don’t want to be like him.” “My mother was so needy. I don’t want to be like her.” “I don’t want you to need me.” “And I don’t want you to need me.” “If you need me, I’ll …” (Say whatever comes to mind next.)
“And if you need me, I’ll …” (Say whatever comes to mind next.)
“My father needed me, and I couldn’t stand it.” “My mother needed me, and I hated it.” “I don’t want to be dependent on you.” “And I don’t want to be dependent on you.” “If I’m dependent on you, I’ll …” (Say whatever comes to mind next.)
“And if I’m dependent on you, I’ll . . .” (Say whatever comes to mind next.)
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